I am all about change when it comes to my boys. I understand how loving and sweet they were as little kids was normal. And I understand how distant and closed off they can be as teenage boys. This is all normal, and I know that. They still love me, and I know that. But there is still that longing in my heart for me to be the center of their world again, like when they were little.
For some reason it really hit me hard this year about how much they have changed, and the effect it has on me. I’m sad. I mean, I am really sad. I accept them growing up, and being more independent, but that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t pull at my heart strings a little bit, or a lot.
How things have changed:
So I’m just not feeling the Christmas thing this year. I’ve only bought a few presents, and I haven’t wrapped anything. I did put up our tree, but I didn’t take a picture of it, because it’s the same damn tree I posted last Christmas. Looks exactly the same, just pretend it’s this year.
I did get really great cards from my mom, Colleen, Lisa, and Mr. Fab. Thanks guys! I didn’t send you a card, as I don’t do cards anymore, but thanks for thinking of me. You guys rock, and it was great meeting you in Vegas last month.
I sure hope this Ba Humbug crap ends soon. I use to LOVE this time of the year.
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Aww Jules. I know what you’re feeling, and my baby is 13 now, so he’s changed this last year. I miss the snuggly version of my kid. Doesn’t he know, Moms don’t outgrow that stuff.
(((Julie)))
How bout a laugh? I was reading this, and I clicked over to see your tree from last year. Then I noticed a Jennifer in the comments, and hovered over it to see where the link was to– one of my old blogs! I was like WHO IS PRETENDING TO BE ME? Then it hit me, duh!! ME– it’s from last year. So I’m a moron, and I thought you should know
Bah Humbug to you too– it’s going around.
How sad- they grow so fast!!
(((hugs))) Why do they have to grow up? I made myself turn all the radio stations, even in the car, to a station that plays nothing but Christmas music. It really has helped my holiday mood.
Hopefully it will kick in for you, hon.
Hopefully it will kick in for you, hon.
Glad you liked the card!
I know how you feel. They grow so fast and change so quickly. Hopefully they still love you. That is most important! ![]()
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I am having the same ‘not really feeling it’ problem this year. I am college student and don’t get done with finals till the 21st and then won’t drive home till thee 22nd. It just seem like Christmas when you are studying for a test. I am grateful though that my mom still goes all out so I can come home and have a little bit of Christmas.
I know how you feel. My son is almost 9 and when I look at him I think: where was I all these years? My daughter is almost 3, where is my baby?? Am I getting old or what.
I don’t even want to imagine what it’s going to be like. Maybe I should have the children frozen.
I sometimes feel the same way from the opposite angle. I remember being excited for Christmas and now, well, I’m not. At all. I miss being a kid again.
It’s certainly different when the kids get older. I’ll confess that Christmas is the one time I wish the kids were younger and/or I could spend the holidays with my family as my brother and sister have kids the perfect age for Christmas. On the bright side we can now go to the late church service and don’t have to get up at the butt crack of dawn to open presents.
We went through that and now they are all lovey and all about doing the old stuff again. Hugs for you, they will be back.
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I feel that when the kids grow up enough that you should go back to enjoying your own personal time. Family Holidays are great when you all get together but so are the holidays you spend as just a couple.