Comments on: Anger…It’s Gotten The Best of Them http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/ Fri, 13 Jan 2012 08:48:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Sindy http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/comment-page-1/#comment-4026 Sindy Wed, 11 Apr 2007 18:46:07 +0000 http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/#comment-4026 {{{{Julie}}}} {{{{Julie}}}}

]]> By: Lisa http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/comment-page-1/#comment-4017 Lisa Wed, 11 Apr 2007 13:29:51 +0000 http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/#comment-4017 I wish there was something any one of us could say to make this situation better. However, your boys have a good male role model in their lives now. I guess the best thing I can say is to focus on that. I wish there was something any one of us could say to make this situation better. However, your boys have a good male role model in their lives now. I guess the best thing I can say is to focus on that.

]]> By: suni http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/comment-page-1/#comment-4008 suni Wed, 11 Apr 2007 07:14:26 +0000 http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/#comment-4008 You have my hugs and prayers gal. It's always easier to hurt the ones you love. Kids are great at doing that. I wish you had something to beat up on right now, too. You have my hugs and prayers gal. It’s always easier to hurt the ones you love. Kids are great at doing that. I wish you had something to beat up on right now, too.

]]> By: Lisa http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/comment-page-1/#comment-4007 Lisa Wed, 11 Apr 2007 06:37:40 +0000 http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/#comment-4007 Julie, honey, I don't even know what to say - except that I am so sorry that you are going through this!! Quite odd really, because I was having similar thoughts/feelings last night (and recently) about my current husband. Just about how although we are the ones who sacrifice for the kids constantly, we are also the ones the kids 'torture', you know? I even thought about calling my brother to ask him to specifically tell me why he resents my mother - because my dad was the hardass! I know that my story is not 'like' yours, but, it's just that similar thread of the complicated relationship teens have with their mothers. It's been seriously chapping my hide lately! I have a book called my mother/myself - maybe I should read it. Big hugs, honey - I'm so sorry!! {{{{{{{{{{{{{{Julie and boys}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Julie, honey, I don’t even know what to say – except that I am so sorry that you are going through this!!

Quite odd really, because I was having similar thoughts/feelings last night (and recently) about my current husband. Just about how although we are the ones who sacrifice for the kids constantly, we are also the ones the kids ‘torture’, you know?

I even thought about calling my brother to ask him to specifically tell me why he resents my mother – because my dad was the hardass!

I know that my story is not ‘like’ yours, but, it’s just that similar thread of the complicated relationship teens have with their mothers. It’s been seriously chapping my hide lately! I have a book called my mother/myself – maybe I should read it.

Big hugs, honey – I’m so sorry!! {{{{{{{{{{{{{{Julie and boys}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

]]> By: Marisa http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/comment-page-1/#comment-4006 Marisa Wed, 11 Apr 2007 06:22:39 +0000 http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/#comment-4006 Damn, Jules, that sucks. I wish I had word of wisdom for you. I don't. You and the boys are in my thoughts, though. Damn, Jules, that sucks. I wish I had word of wisdom for you. I don’t. You and the boys are in my thoughts, though.

]]> By: Loretta http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/comment-page-1/#comment-4005 Loretta Wed, 11 Apr 2007 06:07:53 +0000 http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/#comment-4005 I know there's nothing I can say to make the situation any better. Sorry and the kids are going through this mess right now, it has to be so hard on them. I know there’s nothing I can say to make the situation any better. Sorry and the kids are going through this mess right now, it has to be so hard on them.

]]> By: Deb http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/comment-page-1/#comment-4004 Deb Wed, 11 Apr 2007 05:58:02 +0000 http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/#comment-4004 Julie...I just wantt to send strength and positive energy your way....there is no right or wrong way to handle things...you do what you have to when it comes to surviving emotions and pain. I'm sorry your boys have to go through this as well. They probably aren't even sure how they are dealing with it...they are probably reacting, and not thinking it through. Big bear hug coming your way. Julie…I just wantt to send strength and positive energy your way….there is no right or wrong way to handle things…you do what you have to when it comes to surviving emotions and pain. I’m sorry your boys have to go through this as well. They probably aren’t even sure how they are dealing with it…they are probably reacting, and not thinking it through. Big bear hug coming your way.

]]> By: Deb D http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/comment-page-1/#comment-3999 Deb D Wed, 11 Apr 2007 04:29:46 +0000 http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/#comment-3999 ((Jules)) Good for you for allowing the boyz to take out their anger in a safe place. Thats not an easy thing to do - especially when you are angry yourself. Hang in there. Living well is the best revenge. ((Jules)) Good for you for allowing the boyz to take out their anger in a safe place. Thats not an easy thing to do – especially when you are angry yourself. Hang in there. Living well is the best revenge.

]]> By: Yemi http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/comment-page-1/#comment-3991 Yemi Tue, 10 Apr 2007 22:29:32 +0000 http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/#comment-3991 I can't believe she didn't call you and let you decide what to do about informing your boys! I can’t believe she didn’t call you and let you decide what to do about informing your boys!

]]> By: kat http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/comment-page-1/#comment-3990 kat Tue, 10 Apr 2007 20:59:54 +0000 http://www.juliesjournal.com/2007/04/10/angerits-gotten-the-best-of-them/#comment-3990 I'm sorry you have to deal with this kind of crap too. It's so hard on us because we are the parents who are always there, good or bad. They come to you because they love and trust you. They don't mean to hurt you when they take it out on you, they are frustrated and hurt, they want you to make it better, make it alright, and you can't. And no, venting doesn't make us feel better at all. It just lets it out. But you just have to keep going and keep trying to make them see how much they are loved by you and they are not hurting alone. You hurt for them and that's the hardest part isn't it? We hurt because they hurt, and none of us can make it any better at all. But as for the dumb girlfriend, tell the dumb bitch off. She has no right what so ever calling them directly. She's the girlfriend, not his wife, not their step mom. Se needs to be talking with you and you only. Period. I’m sorry you have to deal with this kind of crap too. It’s so hard on us because we are the parents who are always there, good or bad. They come to you because they love and trust you. They don’t mean to hurt you when they take it out on you, they are frustrated and hurt, they want you to make it better, make it alright, and you can’t.

And no, venting doesn’t make us feel better at all. It just lets it out. But you just have to keep going and keep trying to make them see how much they are loved by you and they are not hurting alone. You hurt for them and that’s the hardest part isn’t it?
We hurt because they hurt, and none of us can make it any better at all.

But as for the dumb girlfriend, tell the dumb bitch off. She has no right what so ever calling them directly. She’s the girlfriend, not his wife, not their step mom. Se needs to be talking with you and you only. Period.

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