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Oh Julie, I’m sorry J’s such an ass. Sorry his girlfriend didn’t use her brain and let you know first. {{{hugs to you, J & J}}}

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I’m sorry, Julie!!! ((((hugs))))

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Grrr at him for doing this. That dumb girl. grrrr

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Oh man…. ugh! I’m sorry you’re continuing to go through this … and will continue to do so for a long time to come. It’s so sad. Maybe one day he will get help, though. There’s always hope.

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I’m sorry you have to deal with this kind of crap too. It’s so hard on us because we are the parents who are always there, good or bad. They come to you because they love and trust you. They don’t mean to hurt you when they take it out on you, they are frustrated and hurt, they want you to make it better, make it alright, and you can’t.

And no, venting doesn’t make us feel better at all. It just lets it out. But you just have to keep going and keep trying to make them see how much they are loved by you and they are not hurting alone. You hurt for them and that’s the hardest part isn’t it?
We hurt because they hurt, and none of us can make it any better at all.

But as for the dumb girlfriend, tell the dumb bitch off. She has no right what so ever calling them directly. She’s the girlfriend, not his wife, not their step mom. Se needs to be talking with you and you only. Period.

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I can’t believe she didn’t call you and let you decide what to do about informing your boys!

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((Jules)) Good for you for allowing the boyz to take out their anger in a safe place. Thats not an easy thing to do – especially when you are angry yourself. Hang in there. Living well is the best revenge.

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Julie…I just wantt to send strength and positive energy your way….there is no right or wrong way to handle things…you do what you have to when it comes to surviving emotions and pain. I’m sorry your boys have to go through this as well. They probably aren’t even sure how they are dealing with it…they are probably reacting, and not thinking it through. Big bear hug coming your way.

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I know there’s nothing I can say to make the situation any better. Sorry and the kids are going through this mess right now, it has to be so hard on them.

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Damn, Jules, that sucks. I wish I had word of wisdom for you. I don’t. You and the boys are in my thoughts, though.

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Julie, honey, I don’t even know what to say – except that I am so sorry that you are going through this!!

Quite odd really, because I was having similar thoughts/feelings last night (and recently) about my current husband. Just about how although we are the ones who sacrifice for the kids constantly, we are also the ones the kids ‘torture’, you know?

I even thought about calling my brother to ask him to specifically tell me why he resents my mother – because my dad was the hardass!

I know that my story is not ‘like’ yours, but, it’s just that similar thread of the complicated relationship teens have with their mothers. It’s been seriously chapping my hide lately! I have a book called my mother/myself – maybe I should read it.

Big hugs, honey – I’m so sorry!! {{{{{{{{{{{{{{Julie and boys}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

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You have my hugs and prayers gal. It’s always easier to hurt the ones you love. Kids are great at doing that. I wish you had something to beat up on right now, too.

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I wish there was something any one of us could say to make this situation better. However, your boys have a good male role model in their lives now. I guess the best thing I can say is to focus on that.

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{{{{Julie}}}}

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