Sep
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Child Indulgence to Offset Guilt
Categories: Books

Since I plowed through my book that I brought with me to Chris’s house on the airplane she gave me the book Dish and Tell: Life, Love, and Secrets to read on the way home. It’s written by six 40-something females from Florida that coin themselves the Miami Bombshells. They write about their jobs, husbands, boyfriends, lovers, family members, and children. The group is made up of high-powered executives, a TV producer, an Emmy-winning broadcaster and a school social worker It’s fun to read how they have the same problems and concerns we do.

The one that struck me the closest to home was when one of the girls is divorced and she has to travel a lot for her job. So when she is home she makes up for her absence by buying her children anything and everything they would ever want. This indulgence is something I think we as working parents all do out of guilt. I can certainly raise my hand and say, “guilty!”

My boyz can live without the Krew jeans, the Baker and Element shirts, the Xbox 360, and the high dollar video cards. They don’t need new skateboards every month be cause the tail is worn and they can’t land their tricks the way they should be landed with a new board.

I bet every parent reading this is guilty of these things we do to make up for the long hours we work. Tell me your story…

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MyAvatars 0.2 QC on 24 September, 2006 at 6:35 am

I think we all have different kinds of guilt and ways of trying to make up for it. I’ve never been the type of mom to buy my kids expensive “stuff” even when I had plenty of money. My guilt has more to do with feeling bad about the experiences my kids had as a result of me letting someone into our lives who turned out to be a bad person. I think it’s a large part of why I was too lax about them being mouthy or moody towards me. :-(


MyAvatars 0.2 Randy on 23 June, 2008 at 3:10 pm

I struggle with this as well. I try not to raise spoiled children. But sometimes I do want to give my children gifts. So it is a real balancing act. I like to vary things. Sometimes I say no when they ask for a material object, and sometimes I say yes. And sometimes I just buy them something without them asking. I like to keep them guessing! That is part of the fun.


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